With the hot season upon us, I thought it would be fun to see all the ways that summer and sex go together. And see what others are saying as well about the opportunities for sex in a season of warmth, relaxation, vacations, and light, enticing clothing.
After exploring the topic, I found a ton of recommendations, suggestions, observations, crazy advice, and opportunities to enjoy summer more than ever before.
Let’s face it, summer is a magical time. For most of us, we think of the season as a time to relax, work less, and enjoy the sensual delights of life. We’ve worked or studied hard through the winter and spring months and now feeling ready for anything in a relaxed way.
We’ve all enjoyed music that celebrates the sensual joys of summer – or experienced romantic & sexual songs that were released during summer. There are 1,000s of songs of summer. From the Beach Boys’ “Summer Means New Love” to Justin Timberlake’s “Summer Loveset the Mood.” And listening to radio in summer while driving or on the beach is always a sensual and energizing experience. Everyone has a song or two that trigger memories of summers past and a sexy time. For me it includes hearing a replay of the Young Rascals singing “Summer in the City.” And lines like:
“But at night it’s a different world.
Go out and find a girl
Come-on come-on and dance all night
Despite the heat it’ll be alright.”
Today is no different, only, now you have an iPhone to play any song list you want in the privacy of your mind while tanning on the beach or speeding along highway 101.
But is summer a time when our thoughts do turn more to sex than other seasons?
Well, according to new research, the answer is yes- along with, oddly enough, December. A Villanova University study published in the Journal Archives of Sexual Behavior analyzed the keywords that people in the U.S. used in Google searches over four years, and found that every year, searches for keywords related to finding dates, prostitutes and pornography showed distinct peaks during June and July, and again during January. Patrick Markey, an associate professor of psychology and researcher said, “it’s more like, something about being around more people, or being around people more often, that makes us more interested in sexual activity,” he said. The summer time tends to bring a flurry of social activities, and December can bring holiday gatherings and shopping crowds.”
And let’s face it, everything’s more on display in summer. Right? “People tend to feel more sexual in warm weather because they’re visually stimulated by all the flesh on display,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. “And we’re subconsciously reminded of sex because the sun flushes the skin in a very similar way to the glow people have when they are aroused.”
And, if that isn’t enough, it turns out that our body’s biochemistry also supports our desire for summer love. One author, Michael F. Holick, Ph.D., M.D., author of The Vitamin D Solution. does seem to know why: “Exposure to sunlight triggers the body to produce mood-boosting dopamine and serotonin, plus a hormone called MSH—all of which spur your libido.” Hmmm. Bring on the sun, but use that sunscreen liberally. I don’t want to have burning skin when I just want sensitive and relaxed skin to skin touching at night.
Yes romance is in the air – and in the sunlight.
And judging from all the popular magazine articles on the subject, summer romance is a sexy opportunity just waiting for the reader to enjoy once they follow all the dating tips, suggestions and warnings, not to mention travel tips for just the right romantic getaway location. Why there’s even some advice on what sex positions to favor in the hot and humid summer – unless you’re in Southern California or Arizona, of course. Then, it’s the dry heat. But what positions do make for the coolest – yet hot – encounter? The best positions are what you and your partner enjoy the most, of course, But, you might try positions where less skin contact takes place, along with the sweaty touching, except for the genital areas. Or, how about having sex in a cool pool or a bathtub filled with luxurious cool water? Better yet, how about imagining the wind blowing in your hair as you and your lover close your eyes and experience nirvana – with a fan blowing only feet away? Anything’s possible in this season of delight!
Finally, I have to admit that having a tryst in summer in an exotic, yet private, location seems, well, thrilling. How about a weekend in Palm Springs by the pool, an ocean getaway on the outer banks of North Carolina, a private cabin on a fresh water lake, or a private villa to explore in Italy. Mmm. That does sound nice. Seeing the world and “going around the world” all at once!
The summer season is definitely upon us. And, as a city boy, I’m motivated now to go out into my town where I live and soak up the summer vibes. So, with no further ado, I’m going to put on my lightest cotton dress shirt, billowy pants, a pair of sandals and some boss-looking sun glasses, and, head out. My wish to you – enjoy the sensuous and sexy summer ahead!
As the Young Rascals sang:
Cool town, evening in the city
Dressing so fine and looking so pretty
Cool cat, looking for a kitty
Gonna look in every corner of the city
Till I’m wheezing like a bus stop
Running up the stairs, gonna meet you on the rooftop